the one about who are friends??

i always found it funny how when you flip through primary school autobiographies written by your fellow classmates, you see them writing about their likings, contact details, and among those crucial details needed to keep in touch, lies a category called 'best frens/bff/bez fwens' or even 'frens'. it might be the immaturity speaking, or maybe it was the social norm at that time. I never thought it was practical writing that even when I was in primary school. It's not because i think i was much more mature than everyone else my age, but because i knew that friendships are like real ships, hard to build, but only takes an iceberg to sink.

Everyday life is like a filter for friendships. Because only the good ones will stay till the end. In life, we meet many people, some mere acquaintances, some buddies, some who understands us, some who we can call friends. There are some people who we can easily get along with, others will take some gettin use to. but nonetheless, we make friendships along the way.

There's a saying that "friends are the ones who will go the extra mile to tear down the wall that u've built to keep people out." I've always thought of friendship as a 2 way communicative system. yes, this may seem like some psychological terminology. but in simple terms, we give and we take.

Usually when I get closer to a friend, I would tend to stop and think whether they take me as close a friend as i take them? I guess I'm afraid to label them as my best friend when they might not consider me one. and my automatic and polite reaction would usually be to not impose, unless they say something too. But now thinking back, it seems like such an immature thing to do. friendships should be built based on sincerity. like everything else, it's not about how much you receive, but about how much you're willing to give.

Just because people treat you a certain way, doesn't necessary mean you have to treat them the same. You can always take the first step and go the extra mile. and be the bigger person.

friendship is not about exclusivity. But about sincerity.

its my life, but its nice not to be so alone.

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